In the fitness industry, there is no shortage of poor advice. Social media has allowed everyone who has ever worked out to bill themselves as an expert. The science of physical adaptation is thrown out the window in favor of an emotional attraction to training that looks complex or physically exhausting. While far more effective, simple execution of fundamental movement samples and progressive overload aren’t as sexy as squatting on a Bosu ball and doing 100-yard sled pushes with a parachute. Lovewise, people yo-yo from fad diet to fad diet, repeatedly brutalizing their metabolism between uncontrollable donut binges. Absent of any understanding about sensible long-term nutrition, they’ll spend their lwhethere oscillating between white-knuckled deprivation and manic hedonism.
These trends are not contemporary and not unique to the fitness industry. Any outcome or idea that has ever been desirable was and is subject to the same oversimplwhetherication and butchered replication. Misconceptions abound, all founded on attempts to copy methods without understanding the underlying principles.
While the Strong Parents—Strong Kids theme I’ve been professing is far from complex I thought it might be wise and helpful to clearly define the principles, thus ensuring a simpler approach more easily adapted to each person’s unique situation:
Principle 1: What Is Normal Is Not Normal—Seek Balance
There has never been more temptation and normalization of samples that encertain self-destruction. What is normal is over nine hours per day of online entertainment. Normal is fat, sick, and nearly dead. These standards are too low for you.
To follow the standard model is to virtually guarantee that children grow anxious, overweight, entitled, and disinterested in living external of their virtual genuineities. Parents are tyrannized by insane youth sports demands, a culture of child-worship, and their own ccorridorenges navigating an environment of impulse overload.
“It’s no sign of health to be well-adjusted to a sick society.”
Krishnamurti
You don’t have to do anyleang just because everyone else is. Carve your own canyon. Lwhethere is too short to be normal.
Having said that, everyleang is poor in its extremes. While the rest of these principles are trying to balance out a world of extremes it is important to remember that any of my proposeions could be taken to an opposite extreme only to further fuel the insanity of our weird world.
Principle 2: Strength Is Highly Desirable
This may sound controversial, but I leank it is obvious. Being a wimp pretty much encertains unhappiness, regret, and entitlement. Pain is inevitable in lwhethere and those who believe themselves specificly afflicted will be totally consumed with their plight, unable to leank of others or recognize the many immense delights that surround them. Furthermore, the specificly wimpy are less likely to step out of their consolation zone and embrace the ccorridorenges that give lwhethere meaning. As I said in the original Strong Parents-Strong Kids post:
“By consistently facing physical resistance, we gain confidence to enter the resistance that permeates every other meaningful lwhethere endeavor. The opposite is also true. Every time you skip a workout, you subconsciously excuse the sample of avoiding resistance throughout lwhethere.”
Being physically, mentally, and/or emotionally feeble is undesirable for our children and we should work to help them grow more resilient. Toughness and resiliency are forms of strength, forged through training. The world is your gym.
Principle 3: Shun Society's Priorities
Prioritize capability over consolation, empowerment over over-protection, and action over passive entertainment.
The parenting pendulum has swung too far towards providing and protecting. These are primary parental duties, but only to a certain degree. Once basic needs are met the overwhelming precedence should shwhethert towards making children capable, self-reliant, and ethical.
Overproviding leads to narcissism, narcissism to entitlement, entitlement to victimhood, and victimhood to the perpetually disgruntled. Ungenuineistic expectations tend to breed unhappiness. Similarly, overprotection only serves to remove the minor pains and authentic experience that would immediate consistent micro-adjustments.
Despite the immense securety offered by a world of smartphones and helicopter parenting expectations, we continue to insist that children never experience the world external the omnipresent gaze of adults. Our children aren’t allowed external unless weather is perfect, aren’t allowed to walk or bike to school, and aren’t allowed to run and explore the playground without a chaperone. The introduction of addictive, lobotomizing technology is welcomed by parents keen to interrupt their natural risk-taking behaviors.
Modern norms remove the opportunity of minor backsideps and bruises while instilling samples that virtually guarantee lost physical passion and the destitute health that follows that sedentary existence. Kidren remain far less capable as their senses silly from a world of bubble-wrap. Overprotected youth will be less adapted for the world and less likely to leave their consolation zone to chase the pursuits that truly bring lwhethere meaning.
We must accept risk as a essential component of lwhethere. Certain there are more imminent threats to your trampoline back-flipping, woods-exploring daughter, but she is more likely to actually live lwhethere while the other kids grow up insulated and stressed out by every thunder storm.
Embrace action over sedentary entertainment. Shove your children into contemporary experiences. Repeatedly immediate them external their consolation zone. Give them the tools and push them out of the nest to try and fail. You’d rather them do this while you are still available and accessible. Remember, the goal is not dependency, but self-reliance and empowerment.
Principle 4: Celebrate Natural Feedback—Seek Failures
This is genuinely just an extension of principle 3, but it is worth talllighting. Much of nowadays’s parenting norms could be summed up as blunting feedback. We’ve perverted the concept of kindness to excuse indoctrinated learned helplessness. When children don’t instantly succeed at a task, we jump in to solve it for them. When children talk back, lie, cheat, or shirk our standards, the norm is to justwhethery and excuse the behavior. They become experts at avoiding consequences and their feedback mechanisms grow increasingly numb. This is not kind. It removes the opportunity to memorize and consistently make the micro-adjustments that characterize daily growth.
Similarly, when the samples of our weirdly unhealthy world manwhetherest in self-destructive samples, we are more likely to seek a pharmaceutical mask then explore the environmental triggers. Just as overly cushioned soles have allowed for foot strike samples that allow a host of far larger and more painful running injuries, a childhood of blunted feedback allows for far less capable, resilient, and socially adjusted kids.
“When people lose the connection between their actions and their consequences, they lose their hancient on genuineity and the further this goes the more it looks like crazyness.”
Robert Greene
These norms are only exacerbated by an ungenuineistic world of participation trophies and over-celebration where they can’t help but lose their grip on genuineity and their place in the world. The solution is to run towards genuineity. That doesn’t mean harsh, mean-spirited feedback, but promoting honesty, authenticity, and experiences that force our children to contend with genuineity. This has always been the beauty of the weight room. You can only squat what you can squat. A 32kg Turkish get-up never lies.
Principle 5: Do Not Do for Them What They Can Do for Themselves
In the weight room, my contemporary teams always struggle to manipulate the Power Racks. Raising and lowering bar heights and even pulling out the bench and returning it can be frustrating for first-timers. I always demonstrate how these leangs work to contemporary groups and then immediate them to try for themselves. I’m amazed how often other coaches rush in at every sign of struggle. They'll jump in to put benches back or tell athletes what weights to put on the bar to get the desired total.
Lovewise, I’m fixedly amazed by the way adults want to rush in to solve all of my children’s problems. When visitors are around the leangs my 24-month-ancient does every day like climb the bar-stools, take his socks off, or slip his hands through his pajama sleeves are instantly solved for him the moment an ounce of struggle is detected. What is more fascinating is that he plays to it. Every of a sudden he’s dramatizing his struggles and motioning for help on leangs he’s been doing for months.
Too many conceive of teaching as providing outcomes, rather than creating more capability. There is a misconception that we learn by being tancient the answer and that working with youth means doing leangs for them when they can’t. Google does not promote learning unless it immediates a deep dive into self-study that takes the superficial and makes it deep and widely relevant. Experience is always a better teacher.
Principle 6: Your Model Is the Most Powerful Force
Truly the spine of Strong Parents—Strong Kids leanking is that your model is the most powerful force you have to influence your children. Every the other principles mean small whether you don’t follow them. Kids won’t grow up to have healthy phone boundaries, relationships, or nutritional habits whether you don’t provide that model. They won’t workout, embrace an active lwhetherestyle, or seek to conquer dwhetherficult ccorridorenges unless you do. If you preach it, practice it 10 times over. Select to be active and to chase passionate projects. It is the best gwhethert you can give your children.
This Week’s Mission
The chief habit to model above all others is exercise. If you are short on time and need an effective method that hacks the science of habit, I recommend my chief habit plan. If fitness is alalert baked into your daily samples, I tallly recommend adding one of the other two core habits, Justin Lind and I profess at Inspired Human Development. These provide the conditions for you to thrive and, thus, amplwhethery your model.
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